You Can Validate Yourself
I have always been someone who awakens from sleep with vivid recollections of my dreams. These dreams often feel like messages, guiding me towards actions to take and places to explore. This inclination towards dreaming has been with me since childhood, and one of my most cherished memories dates back to when I was ten years old—the first time I shared one of my recurring dreams with my grandmother. Her validation and acknowledgment of my gift, though I didn’t fully understand it at the time, left me with a sense of empowerment. As children, validation from adults shapes our perception of ourselves, influencing the paths we choose in life.
This article is not about dreams or my ability as a dreamer; instead, it centers around the recognition of the factors that mold our lives and the conscious effort to shape our desired path. Reflecting on your most memorable childhood experiences that validated you is crucial, as traumatic memories often overshadow the wonderful aspects of our essence. Many of us find ourselves fervently searching for our purpose and navigating life feeling disconnected from our true selves.
As a hypnotherapist utilizing regression therapy and inner child journeys, I’ve witnessed numerous instances where childhood experiences and validations, or lack thereof, significantly impacted individuals. The subconscious mind tends to hold onto less-than-desirable experiences, often leading individuals to feel disconnected from their true selves. The challenge lies in the fact that, at the time of these incidents, individuals were not emotionally equipped to understand that these feelings were not permanent.
As adults, we may still carry the beliefs and words imprinted on our minds by caregivers from decades ago. Dr. Joe Dispenza emphasizes in his book “Becoming Supernatural” that our subconscious minds function as recorders capturing everything around us. Understanding the intricate connection between the Mind, Body, and Soul becomes crucial in unraveling the programming of our minds. However, recognizing that it is not our fault and that blame is unnecessary is the first step towards healing.
Clients often experience profound transformations when they become aware of the core beliefs and lies they’ve been telling themselves. The realization that they can change these core beliefs marks a turning point in their journey. Marisa Peer’s book, “Tell Yourself a Better Lie,” showcases case studies of clients who rewired outdated core beliefs using Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). The stories shared in the book demonstrate radical transformations in various aspects of life.
Over the years, I’ve validated myself using RTT, and the outcomes of my clients affirm that validation is possible. The message here is clear: you are never stuck. Even if caregivers from your past did not validate your gifts, your purpose is not external to you; you are the purpose you seek. Now, as a conscious adult, you have the power to validate yourself.
Becoming curious about what lies beneath the surface is the first step. When challenging thoughts arise, question their validity. Challenge their truth and evaluate if they still hold true for you. You cannot erase the memories of your past, but you can change your perception of them. Rediscovering your true essence involves asking what you will gain from self-validation. For me, the rewards include living in the present and finding peace of mind. Regularly redirecting your thoughts allows you to practice changing invalidating beliefs. Be the creator of your experience and a loving parent to yourself by showing empathy. Your thoughts create your words, and as Florence Scovel Shinn stated, “Your word is your wand.” You can use that wand to shape the life you desire.
Contact me if you want to learn more about how to validate yourself.
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